Todd Baratz

Todd advises against relying on instant chemistry or 'sparks' when dating, as they are often deceptive projections of our desires rather than reflections of genuine connection. The intoxicating rush of excitement we feel is rarely about the person themselves, but more about the idealized story we create to fill in the blanks early on. True compatibility grows over time through understanding someone's values, reliability, and how they navigate life's challenges. Lasting love requires moving beyond instant gratification and getting to know someone's authentic self.